Counterintuitive Series #10: The Most Important Person to Believe In You

Have you noticed that it’s easy to become discouraged about riding?

We’re trying so hard to do the right thing. We spend a lot of time, money, and effort. Sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn’t.

For episode #10 in our counterintuitive series, I chose to do a short podcast. You can download it if you think it might be helpful to listen to it from time to time.

It’s about the need for YOU to continually nourish your belief in yourself – which can definitely be counterintuitive. But I believe this is one of the most important thing you can do for yourself and your riding.

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Counterintuitive #9: Speed Up or Slow Down?

Have you noticed that sometimes we tend to use our cues too fast (our hands or feet get too quick) when we need to be slow and smooth? And then we want to go too slow with our cues when we need to be quick – but still stay smooth!

What’s going on there?

This video is #9 in our counterintuitive series. It’s all about discovering how to be in the tempo and speed flow of the moment. And yes, what’s required is counterintuitive!


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Counterintuitive Series #8: When You Grow & When You Get Weaker

Hello, my friends!

This is our eighth episode in our counterintuitive series – those things in our riding that are important to do, but we all tend to do the opposite

This week’s topic is all about training ourselves to recover our energy and lower our heart rate at will. This certainly is a huge challenge in our world of being on the go every moment! But it is the key to consistency and sustained high performance.

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Counterintuitive Series #7:
Love My Mistakes? No Way!

Hello, my Friends!

This is our seventh episode in our counterintuitive series – those basic things in our riding that are important to do, but they’re so easy to forget – and easy to think they don’t carry that much weight.

The first six topics in our series were about:

  • The power of intention and how that sets us up for a positive experience with a clear focus
  • The amazing impact of keeping our eyes up to ensure direction and focus
  • How breathing can transform a ride for the better in literally one breath
  • Feeling your horse move beneath you by focusing on your seat bones
  • Using your seat and legs first before your hands
  • Having the patience to complete the tiny-step sequences in all maneuvers

But most often with all these counterintuitive elements, our natural tendency is to do exactly the opposite! That’s the interesting part to me.

Our seventh topic in this video is all about the challenge of not only getting comfortable with making mistakes, but actually looking for them as the golden keys to your most efficient progress.


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Counterintuitive Series #6:
Tiny Steps Done Well

This is number six in our counter-intuitive series that discusses many of the basics of horsemanship and riding, interwoven with the mental tools and skills that we all know we should do, but we tend to do just the opposite.

Today’s topic is about the tiny steps involved in doing any maneuver we do on a horse. If we don’t do each one of the small steps well (in the chain along the way), then the maneuver as a whole will not be smooth. Or it may not build the confidence of our horse – or us.


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Counterintuitive Series #5:
These Come First – Really?

Hello, my Friends!

This is our fifth episode in our counterintuitive series – those basic things in our riding that are important to do, but they’re so easy to forget – and easy to think they don’t carry that much weight.

The first four topics in our series were about:

  • The power of intention and how that sets us up for a positive experience with a clear focus
  • The amazing impact of keeping our eyes up to ensure direction and focus
  • How breathing can transform a ride for the better in literally one breath
  • Feeling your horse move beneath you by focusing on your seat bones

But most often with all these counterintuitive elements, our natural tendency is to do exactly the opposite! That’s the interesting part to me.

Our fifth topic in this video is all about the challenge of using your seat and/or your legs/feet before your hands. We tend to go right to our hands for almost everything!


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Counterintuitive Series #4: Please Be Seated

This is the fourth episode in our counterintuitive series – those basic things in our riding that are important to do, but they’re so easy to forget – and easy to think they don’t carry that much weight.

As a quick review, the first topic in our series was about the power of intention and how that sets us up for a positive experience with a clear focus. The second was the amazing impact of keeping our eyes up, and the third was how breathing could transform a ride for the better literally in one breath.

But most often with all these counterintuitive elements, our natural tendency is to do exactly the opposite! That’s the amazing part to me!

Our fourth topic today is all about becoming more connected with your horse through your seat. And just like all of the other counterintuitive topics, I LOVE this one!

Now I’m doing this episode via audio for a reason. It’s because I want you to take the time to tune into your body as you ride, connect to your seat, release tension, and feel the movement of your horse beneath you.

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Counterintuitive Series #3:
take a breather

This is our third video in our counterintuitive series – those basic things in our riding that are important to do, but they’re easy to forget or think that they don’t care that much weight.

And most often, our natural tendency is to do exactly the opposite!

Number 3 is all about breathing.


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Counterintuitive Series #2:
The Eyes Have It!

Hi, my Friends.

This is the second video in our counterintuitive series. And what I mean by that is there are many things we know we should do, but they seem so ‘common’ that we tend to think, “Yeah-yeah. Let’s move on to something a little more exciting!”

The challenge is that all of these ‘basics’ matter A LOT – but – they are counterintuitive and easy to forget to do.

By that, I mean that it feels more natural not to do them. Or we think these things don’t have that big of an effect on what happens with our horse in any one moment.

What I’m going to talk about in this video is keeping our eyes up, why it’s important, and a tip for doing just that.


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Counterintuitive Series, #1:
Does THIS really matter?

This is the first in a series of ‘good practices’ for riding that are counterintuitive – or maybe we think they’re not THAT important.

Over the next six videos, I’m going share one ‘yah-yah, but does it really matter’ idea, explain why I think it’s important and I’ll give a simple tip to you for doing it.

This first video is about the simple practice of setting an intention before you ride.

You may think that setting an intention before your ride does not significantly impact your ride.

I understand why you might think that.

But in this video, I explain why I believe setting an intention is counterintuitive for most of us, and why I know it matters.

You’ll also come along with me on a little adventure to boogie land with Nic! HA! It will be fun to see what happens.


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In Our Horseback Riding Lives, Change is Always a Challenge

And, Change is a Gift

There is always change in our horse lives.

This can happen when our horse has to be laid off. Or, we might experience a change in our financial capabilities to follow through on plans. Or, we might get the news that a trainer or a vet is moving. These are just a few examples. You fill in your own blanks.

Change is the only thing that is sure in our lives.

As I write this article, I am feeling that ultimate happy/sad state that change can bring. There’s a big change happening in my life right now.

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