In this video I discuss a friend’s experience of feeling self-conscious and distracted during a private riding lesson with a trainer she admired.

Her feeling is natural due to our innate desire to connect and be approved by others.

I then suggest a simple tool for handling such feelings: asking oneself what one’s job is at that moment. In this case, my friend’s job was to gather information and feedback.

I introduced the concept of “pinging” (recently learned by Dr. Stephanie Burns), which involves directing one’s brain to focus on something specific—in this case, hearing and integrating the trainer’s information into the ride—undistracted.

I emphasized the importance of setting an intention to tune into the experience’s purpose and integrate the feedback received.

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It’s Barb, and I’m here with my favorite boy, Nic.

I want to tell you about some things that happened this past week.

First, my husband and I called a good friend because we knew his shoulder was sore. It turned out that he had a shoulder infection and was in the hospital. His shoulder replacement had become infected, which was quite serious, so he was in the hospital.

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