A Question About Grief

Last week I did a video about no resistance to challenges, and it was really more about the kinds of things that come up as we’re riding, say, bad weather, the ground, judges, someone’s comments – those kinds of things.

It could also be our own inner voice saying detrimental things.

I was thrilled to see the comments and hear from you. I love that and I always know what’s ringing true for you so thank you.

One of the comments asked how does that idea apply to grief? I thought that was a really good question.

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AUDIO TRANSCRIPT:

Hey, it’s Barb.

Last week I did a video about no resistance to challenges, and it was really more about the kinds of things that come up as we’re riding, say, bad weather, the ground, judges, someone’s comments – those kinds of things.

It could also be our own inner voice saying detrimental things.

I was thrilled to see the comments and hear from you. I love that and I always know what’s ringing true for you so thank you.

One of the comments asked how does that idea apply to grief? I thought that was a really good question.

It’s one that’s really close to my heart. How does that no resistance idea apply to grief?

I want to put things in two big buckets.

One is, on your horse at the show at the clinic, at home, or wherever, with friends and things just come up.

Grief is different. It’s a look at the heart of someone’s personal life experience,

By life experience, I’m talking about what we think about when we wake up at night, how we think about our abilities, our belief in ourself, what we love, if we think we’re on the right track.

When someone or an animal passes or we lose something that’s so dear to us, it puts us in a tailspin. It can be unlike any other pain we’ve ever experienced.

I do have a belief in general for my life that goes like this – no matter what the experience is, there’s always a gift in it or gifts in it.

There’s always something good in every experience- more wisdom, more strength, more courage – if we look for it. That’s the key for me for riding over time in the midst of pain – to have that belief and really look for it.

It’s not to deny the pain, or the experience, but it is to walk hand in hand with acknowledging – I am in pain and at some point in time, I’ll understand more or I’ll see something about this experience, how it’s helped me.

In my experience with our son Zane, that belief was a big strength for me.

Now, our family is currently going through grieving a loss of one of our dear, dear family members.

It surprised me again about how hard grief is and how painful it is.

That’s a long answer to the no resistance question and how it applies to grief.

I don’t think grief is the same application or the same kind of life experience as what we talked about last week.

So thank you for the question and thank you for allowing me to express myself on this topic cause it’s one that’s really important to me.

I’d love for you to leave a comment and share your thoughts. Have a great week. Bye-bye.

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