Who’s your superhero?

Sometimes we don’t know how or why one person achieves great success, and at the same time, is incredibly happy and confident. They seem to have it all.

It’s as if we want to drink the same water they’re drinking so we can have those things, too. (-:

They are the heroes in our lives. They are people of great character and achievement.

In this video, I have a fun exercise for you. It will help you identify with our superheroes’ qualities and know we, too, can ride and live in a fulfilling and successful way.

I want to do an exercise with you today.

Think about someone in the horse world who you admire – someone you feel good with and at ease with when you’re around them? Or maybe it’s someone you admire from afar? What matters is that you respect and look up to them.

I’ll give you a second, and if you like, you can stop the video and get your hero in mind.

Got ’em? (-:

Put that person right in the forefront of your mind and see them doing their thing with a horse, or as they teach, or show – whatever they do.

Now, I have some questions for you.

Do you think of them as super-competent, as in you know, they know, their stuff?

I bet the answer is yes.

Do you think they’re unique? Do they have shining qualities that make them stand out from other people?

One of the things I admire about my person is their clarity about what they love and how they express it in their life.

And what about how your hero treats other people?

This is the one quality I admire so much in people. To me, there are many physically talented people, but it’s those who are kind and genuinely helpful to others who make me want to do the same.

And here’s one last question for you.

How does your shining star handle adversity? What is their response to big or small disappointments – or even the tragedies of life?

That ability to walk through the tough stuff, like the news of a lame horse, or making the best of being off after a horse accident, or losing a loved one or friend, now that inspires me. The quality of being willing to face adversity and come out on the other side even stronger because of it – for me – that’s a trait I so admire. It helps me know I can make it through tough times, too.

So did I hit some or all of your hero’s characteristics?

I bet if you ranked those qualities from 1-4, one being the trait you admire most, that your hero’s ability to ride, show or teach would be something that made you smile and nod, but it wasn’t the biggest thing that caused you to look up to them.

Was I right?

What would you name that constellation of qualities we just talked about? Maybe Confidence and character?

It’s not always easy to find the right words.

But I do know two things for sure.

The first is, all you see on the outside began initially on the inside.

They had a vision of what they loved to do and how they wanted to do it. How they treated other people mattered. They understood that life brings storms and even though it’s hard, they could face those troubles and rise again.

They embraced their journey and respected the journeys of others.

The second thing I know is that my heroes roll with life and go for their magic. They look within to evaluate what’s right for them, and then they go for it.

So, over my career, I have come to know there are two kinds of Confidence we can learn. That’s really great news!

Confidence attributes are not reserved for a few chosen people we view as heroes. We can develop them.

The first kind of Confidence is focus and calmness with and on a horse. This is often referred to as ‘performance’ confidence. It’s powerful and opens the door to extraordinary achievement, wonderful relationships with a horse, success, and great riding experiences. I love that!

The other kind of Confidence is what I call Confidence Within. This embodies the qualities we just talked about. It’s clarity, resilience, and the courage to trust our hearts and go for the gusto of our own lives.

Both kinds of Confidence, performance and within, are powerful. They open the door to success, joy, and great fulfillment.

But the quiet, daily, living, trusting, and embracing our unique kind of confidence underlies all we do both on and off of a horse. In the words of Dr. Jim Loehr, it’s the great power broker of our lives.

On Tuesday, November 2nd, I will explore Confidence Within with you in a 3-part free Workshop.

I’m super excited about it. I love being with you and walking through these ideas with you.

We’ll talk about and do exercises on clarity, moving forward, resiliency, and kindness to ourselves and other people – just to name a few of the topics we’ll cover.

I would love for you to join me. We’ll have a great time – and – we’ll relate it to your riding and journey with your horse.

You can click the yellow button to register. That way I can let you know when the lessons are released over about a 10-day period.

And leave a comment for me about this video. Did your hero have the qualities we talked about?

Let me know. It’s so awesome to hear your thoughts in the comments. I hope to see you in the Workshop.

Click Here for the Free Confidence Within Workshop

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4 Comments on Who’s your superhero?

  1. Carol MacGregor on Sun, 24th Oct 2021 2:20 pm
  2. Hi Barb, I’ve listened to your podcast with Jim Lehrer (sp?) twice now and I really, really have enjoyed it and benefited from it. I want to listen to it a few more times. One aspect that really stood out to me in your interview was that people who have accomplished great feats/winnings are the most satisfied when they are also helping other people or in some way contributing to other peoples’ lives–not just trying to “win more” for the sake of the “status”. Very insightful and helpful to know. I’m looking forward to, once again, study about “confidence within”. Thank you so much for doing this free seminar. Also, something kind of cute from this video was this—I heard a kitty meowing and looked around to see if my kitty needed something. Than I saw your kitty make an appearance from behind you and it made me LOL–;) You never know some of the fun little things, unintended, that you bring to your Sunday videos. And I always love to see Nic, and watch him whenever you have him help you or just be with you in your Sunday videos too. Thanks for making Sunday a Funday!!! 🙂

  3. Claire on Sun, 24th Oct 2021 3:12 pm
  4. Snigger-towards the end-I kept looking for my cat-who was obviously asking to go out-and there it was-right behind you! 🙂
    Always enjoy your thoughts-and I too-really got a lot out of the Jim Lehrer-the private and personal persona alignment is a big one for me-such a fresh perspective on it! Yup-I’m not real excited about being around unkind people-but try to remember we’re all a work in progress…You yourself are a wonderful mentor and teacher-kudos!

  5. Tanya on Sun, 24th Oct 2021 7:15 pm
  6. Hi Barb. You really got me thinking about the traits and visualizing the person I look up to. It made me realize that I too can have that confidence and knowledge. My hero handles adversity with quiet dignity and positivity. It is what makes them shine.

  7. Katrina Thompson on Sun, 24th Oct 2021 7:55 pm
  8. I’m very excited about the workshop. 💜 I consider you a super hero. 🥰 I almost thought I didn’t have what it took because everyone around me said I was too soft, or not “cowgirl” enough to tell my horse what to do (whatever that means?). Then I came across your Well Connected Series and boy did that open my eyes. I couldn’t believe how kind and motivating you are in and out of the saddle (even to a non competitor). Very different from other experiences I’ve had. My confidence grows every day since then.💜 I cannot wait to see which door this workshop will open! Thank You! 😊

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