Three traits that work for anything

I had to reschedule a 4-part, 2-day webinar series a few days ago that was supposed to be for this past Friday and Saturday.

It was because the weather in Texas wreaked havoc on our internet, power, and water. We have been very fortunate personally. Our prayers are with our Texas neighbors who certainly have suffered.

However, on Wednesday, when I realized I had to reschedule, I went into a little bit of a tailspin trying to figure it all out.

Then, I remembered three traits I learned in my original performance training that apply not only to competitors but to everyone in all kinds of situations.

And I love thinking about them as related to riding.

That’s what this video is all about.


I brought Nic out with me to say, ‘Hi,’ but he was a little too fresh, so back into the barn he went.

I originally had a two-day showing workshop scheduled for this past Friday and Saturday.

Because of the weather in Texas, on Wednesday, it became apparent that I had to reschedule.

It brought to mind three character traits of great competitors. But, to me, it’s not just for competitors; it’s for anyone, really.

I’m going to apply them here to our riding.

The first is to be responsive. For riding, that means the ability to feel our horse’s subtle movements and be responsive to him or her moment to moment.

Being responsive exists then, on the micro-level.

Next is being flexible. To me, that’s a little bit bigger picture chunk. Instead of the micro moment-to-moment, it’s the “Oh, and this happened that I wasn’t expecting. So now I need to do this other thing.” It’s an if a+b does not equal c… then try a+b=d, or maybe f!

It’s thinking on our feet. It’s also thinking out of the box.

The third thing is resiliency, or that ability to get back up after something unfortunate happens. You believe in yourself. You don’t listen to those internal voices that tell you, ‘You can’t. This always happens. You’re not very good at what you do.”

You get back up and figure out your next step.

I was grateful to be reminded of those three things when I had to be flexible about rescheduling the workshop.

If you’re interested in the SHINE in the Show Pen Workshop, click that link.

Leave a comment. How’s your responsiveness, flexibility, and resilience?

Stay safe and warm!

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10 Comments on Three traits that work for anything

  1. Gretchen on Sun, 21st Feb 2021 2:52 pm
  2. Stay safe and warm.
    I’m outside of Chicago so we’re set up for winter here. It’s still difficult!
    So sorry to see what’s happening in TX.
    Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience with us.

  3. Kathy DeBorde on Sun, 21st Feb 2021 3:06 pm
  4. Hi Barbara, this lovely weather will go away soon! My daughter and I attended several of Your clinics back in early 90s, I think. The skills, You taught us has been a part of regular life, as well as the cutting pen. I’ve been back in the cutting pen, last 3 years, and thought, I need one of Your clinics. Need to (get in the zone) Get my focus back. So I will be doin the webinar. So grateful for the life skills , You’ve taught us. Stay safe!

  5. Kathleen Smiley on Sun, 21st Feb 2021 5:07 pm
  6. Boy oh boy is this important to me, as a 74-yr-old still riding, with a fresh and energetic new rescue horse! Mostly the ‘unfortunate episodes’ can be tied to something I inadvertently did without knowing it, and my mare is a sweetheart, basically, but stuff does happen and stuff hurts a lot more when you’re my age, along with the possibility of ending up in the expensive hospital!!

  7. Kimberly Moody on Sun, 21st Feb 2021 5:58 pm
  8. It was explained to me one time as JOYFUL Flexibility. Wow, life changing to take whatever the Lord allows with true Joy. Thank you, Barb, you always have such joy and gratitude in the midst of change. Praying for all in Texas as you recover from the cold.

  9. Karen Stephens on Sun, 21st Feb 2021 6:25 pm
  10. BRR Florida looks pretty good right now! Nic looks great in his winter jammies and fur coat. You look great in your winter parka too!!! Flexibility is a big one. 2020 taught us that too and this crazy winter. You guys stay warm and safe. Love the life skills you teach. It’s so helpful and great.

  11. Carol MacGregor on Sun, 21st Feb 2021 6:46 pm
  12. Hi Barb, OMG–still hard to believe that snowy, cold weather Texas received for days!!! You and NIc make a great picture though–I have to say. It looked like Nic was wondering where he was because when it snows everything looks different both to us and to the horses. We live in an area where we might get 2 or 3 inches of snow that sticks maybe once a year. The landscape looks totally different then. And I can see that it is still snowing there too–so cold! But you look toasty warm in your coat with furry hood etc. Thank you for sharing what you personally were going through mentally and emotionally during this unprecedented winter storm. Once again, very helpful insights to overcome difficulties. Hope you pipes did not burst!!!! 🙂

  13. Dawn on Mon, 22nd Feb 2021 6:50 am
  14. Hi Barb! Nic looks adorable in his winter fur and jammies. Glad you fared well through the Texas storm. We’ve been praying for Texas here in northern Illinois. Thank you for guiding us through a mindful way of dealing with riding setbacks and life itself. stay safe and warm. Spring is right around the corner.

  15. Lynn Sava on Tue, 23rd Feb 2021 9:14 am
  16. Thanks for this video and important message on flexibility. It was also reassuring that you put Nic away because he was so fresh. My horse was acting the same way after a storm last week here in NY and I just put him back. I wasn’t sure if that was the right thing to do or if I should have worked with him until he calmed down. Stay safe and warm. Spring is right around the corner!

  17. Dianne Burns on Sun, 28th Feb 2021 3:57 pm
  18. You have an admirer here on the Central Coast of CA. You give so much to all of us and ask for little in return.
    Thank you for all you do!
    I try adopting what you preach with my horse Scout and it’s paying dividends. Thrilled to be a part of your horse universe. It makes me strong.
    Dianne Burns/Lompoc CA

  19. Jennifer Machado on Sun, 28th Feb 2021 6:07 pm
  20. Thank you, Barbara! This has helped. I don’t have a horse of my own but I ride my friend’s Clydesdale. She’s huge! (17.2h)She 4 and gets anxious sometimes on the trail due to bikes and runners on the trail coming behind her. She is pretty good for the most part but there are times she gets anxious. My mind goes to a different place and I am working on getting into the calm column. I’m confident in my skills it’s just the mental block and getting back to being calm for her. Thank you for the advice! I couldn’t of read it at a better time. 🙂

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