The Private Voice

You know how it felt when you were a little kid, and you came face to face with one of your personal heroes? That’s how I felt this week when I interviewed Dr. Jim Loehr changed the trajectory of my life, starting in 1988. His body of research and work has been so much a part of what I’ve shared with you over the years.

This week I sat down with him for an interview for my podcast, The Barbra Schulte Show. As always, his insights were clear and made a huge impact on me.

He shared an idea he calls, the private voice. That’s what this video is all about.

This week I sat down with Dr. Jim Loehr for an interview for my podcast, The Barbra Schulte Show. He’s been one of my hero mentors for many years.

One of the things he talked about was what he called our “private voice.”

He said there is a public voice, like what I’m speaking to you with now, and then there’s a private voice which is what you say to yourself all the time.

In the past, you’ve heard me talk about the idea of “scripting,” which is planning what you say to yourself during your ride to keep you focused, on task, at the moment, and calm.

That’s all perfect – good – keep at it because it works.

And now you can broaden that idea to train that same internal voice to coach yourself and encourage yourself in all you do.

You might say, “How do you train a private voice? As I’m doing my thing during the day, and I’m not focused on any one thing; I just think what I think.”

Well, we must put effort into it. Whatever we put our energy into, we give life to. So, if what we say to ourselves is important to us, we need to do a couple of things.

  1. Know what we want.
  2. Know what’s important to us.
  3. Do what would be fun and feel good to say to ourselves.
  4. Be like a detective for old private voice patterns that tear us down.
  5. Be our biggest cheerleader.

Just like in scripting, when we plan what we say during specific parts of our ride, we need to decide how we want to see ourselves in our life. What’s important to us? And then we coach ourselves to keep that in our focus and encourage ourselves. Again, we must put effort into it and build a powerful voice that guides us, encourages us, makes things fun, and roots us on.

That private voice is the most important riding and life coach we have. It’s always with us, and no one knows exactly what it is but us. It needs to be a force for good – a force that builds us up – and always aligned with what’s most important to us.

What do you want your internal, private coach to be saying to you?
Make it awesome and empowering. Have fun with it. And go for what you love.

As Dr. Loehr would say, “And then, bring it!”

Go for it – and keep going for it with the awesome encouragement of your private voice every day!

Let me know what you think about putting effort into designing an incredible private voice for yourself.

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9 Comments on The Private Voice

  1. Rebecca Reeves Welch on Mon, 13th Sep 2021 7:17 am
  2. I enjoyed this video/article and am sharing because I think it’s important.

  3. Cindy Newell on Mon, 13th Sep 2021 3:36 pm
  4. I LOVE this kind of information. Currently, for me, it makes me think about coaching myself through mistakes I make during a show run. I told myself that if I made a mistake, that I would focus on the next maneuver or the next trail obstacle, but I didn’t do it! So I’m going to practice it at home so I can use it in the show pen.

  5. Janice on Mon, 13th Sep 2021 3:51 pm
  6. I totally agree with the idea of reprogramming our ‘private voice.” It is not easy but can be done. Having said that, I find it very easy to fall back into the negative so it’s a work in progress, maybe always will be.

  7. Jaime Brown on Mon, 13th Sep 2021 6:49 pm
  8. This is awesome… there is so much power in how we talk to ourselves….the changes in us begin after we are intentional with directing our thoughts. Thank you for sharing!!

  9. Colleen on Mon, 13th Sep 2021 10:35 pm
  10. I am so excited that you are interviewing Dr. loehr on your podcast!!!! I relisten to your “shine… and Previous interview with Dr Loehr … to get it in my bones !!!!Whenever I can ….all the time …i listen to it I hear something I didn’t before…. Thank you so much!!! For this opportunity!!

  11. Carol MacGregor on Tue, 14th Sep 2021 11:08 pm
  12. Thank you for that encouragement to “script” positive things to ourselves. I know that all day long I say negative things to myself. I’d like to change that and I know that it would be great to also do that when I ride my horses. I’ll listen to your podcast with Dr. Loehr. 🙂

  13. Bev K. on Wed, 15th Sep 2021 8:52 am
  14. This is just what I needed to hear today. Stinkin’ thinkin’ and negative thoughts can come so easily…I don’t have to seem to work at those. This I need to work at! Whether I’m riding or just living life, this is a great way to move forward! Thank you for sharing your life changing ways with all of us!

  15. Kim L Kasson on Wed, 15th Sep 2021 11:29 am
  16. Thank you for this! I have my versatility finals coming up in 2 weeks. I will apply this and come up with a little script for myself in preparation for this big end of the year event for me and my mare.

  17. Lloyd Estes on Thu, 16th Sep 2021 1:57 pm
  18. Food, Shelter, and Clothing are commodities of life, though as afluency increases, Recreation may trump the first three. Positive, proactive behavior can be a recreational road map.Barbs assertive support is a very helpful road map to more compensating recreation.

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