The most important person
to believe in you

I’ve had the great honor to travel around and meet and coach all kinds of riders.

These awesome experiences for me reminded me of a message that we all need to hear, including myself. Enjoy!


Hi, it’s Barb.

I have a fun little exercise for you today.

Pause the video and think of a person who has been super encouraging to you. Choose someone you know who believes in you.

Now think about a time when you were either with this person… maybe in person… or on the phone… or maybe you got a text or an email… think about a time when they lifted you up.

How did you feel?

For me, I can distinctly remember a time when a friend sent a note to me before a big event in Fort Worth, Texas. This was early on in my cutting career… but I so remember it because of how I felt.

She said… You can do it.

I believe in you.

I’ll never forget that!

So, what did your super encourager person say to you in the past?

Pause the video.

Write down what your friend said to you?

Save that paper and keep it handy.

Now, here’s your assignment. Talk to yourself in that same way.

Tell yourself often that you believe in yourself… and that you trust where you are in your personal horse adventures right now.

And that through all of the ups and downs… no matter how big the downs might be… that you… and your riding… and your horse… are worth every moment… and that you’re going for it.

As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.

The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

Be kind to you. You are the most important person to encourage you.

And you truly are awesome.

Keep at it.

You will know both victory and defeat… so as you go, soak in the richness of your life with your horse.

Encourage yourself.

Leave a comment and let me know what you think.

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13 Comments on The most important person
to believe in you

  1. Sydney on Sun, 11th Oct 2020 7:29 am
  2. I was looking for one of your healing thoughts to help a friend when I found this one which was just what I needed to hear for myself. Thank you for sharing your heart and soul, your understanding, compassion and love for horses with the rest of us.

  3. Lucy on Sun, 11th Oct 2020 1:15 pm
  4. Thank you for all you share.

  5. Kathy on Sun, 11th Oct 2020 4:07 pm
  6. Timely remarks, as I’ve just been told I couldn’t handle a certain horse because I’m too kind and soft. Thank you for the much needed encouragement!

  7. Catherine Parke on Sun, 11th Oct 2020 5:10 pm
  8. I can’t tell you how much your workshop has helped me. Just finished a tremendous show due to incorporating many of your lessons. I was able to lower my heart rate before entering the show pen. I breathed in between transitions. It was wonderful. Thank you,Catherine

  9. Sandi on Sun, 11th Oct 2020 8:14 pm
  10. Thanks Barb, reading that transcript is just what I needed this morning. My first day back at work after 3 weeks. My horse kicked me on the side of my knee, damaging my MCL and suspected ACL, hobbling around awaiting an MRI next week, hoping for a positive outcome. Physio suggested I may not ride for 6 months, however, I’m trying to keep positive. A work colleague was very supportive this morning, and said that it will take time to heal, but it will heal, and I’ll be back to my busy self before I know it! Positivity goes a long way. Self-belief even further. Thank you!

  11. Tere Goldstein on Mon, 12th Oct 2020 12:38 am
  12. Thanks Barb ..This was real important to read and think about…So I’m just going to write so I can just finally see this on the page.
    I am in the closet on believing in myself . This might not make sense. I have a lot of confidence but I hide from it from myself.I want success and have been successful I feel I can’t own it unless someone else affirms it to me or I have a token of proof. It keeps me from seeing me being fully in my life. .
    I thought I could never learn to get my own trailer and truck and learn to use navigation and take myself and my horse places ..
    I am still so out of my comfort zone to go far ..but. I do it now and I am proud of this accomplishment.
    I had a Mom who was overconfident and always pushed Me but was always saying be careful and send a message of I don’t really think you can but try any way. and my husband can be the same way .
    . I may not always be self confident however I have taught art and riding and have watched my students grow in believing in themselves and go on to excel .
    . I am a good cheerleader and instructor . I can see what potential they have. . And helped them reach goals .
    Just hard to do that for me . It’s sad to say but I beat myself up and encourage me at the same I don’t have much ego left to recognize that I am in in my own success .
    I believe enough in my self at least now that I have shared this .

    Barb thank you for all the wisdom you share .


  13. Jackie Rives on Mon, 12th Oct 2020 8:10 am
  14. Thanks Barb!! This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear this morning. I’ve been on the fence with a huge issue in my horse life and your words have given me inspiration and perspective. I appreciate your wisdom, always!

  15. Marilyn on Mon, 12th Oct 2020 9:31 am
  16. Barb, thank’s so much! Reading this on Monday morning has really set me up for a great week–and a great life.
    I am having such a frustrating time looking for my next & forever horse. But now I am going to look at it as a blessing to even be able to afford a new horse; and be physically able to ride.
    Years ago, when I was so frustrated while looking for my FIRST horse, a good friend smiled and said, “He’s just around the corner.”
    Thanks so putting me back in that mindset.
    (I love all your videos)!

  17. Rita on Mon, 12th Oct 2020 8:58 pm
  18. Thank you Barb, Positive words and friendly support goes a long way when we (I) need to feel that someone is there to encourage believe in us (me).

  19. julie catenacci on Tue, 13th Oct 2020 7:42 am
  20. I thought about everyone in my life who who has been most influential with my struggles with getting back on my horse. Quite frankly…I only could see you in my vision. So thank you for all your encouragement thru your Core Confidence class I’m in.

  21. Carol MacGregor on Tue, 13th Oct 2020 10:41 pm
  22. Thank you for that kind encouragement regarding being as kind to yourself as someone who has really lifted you up at a certain instance. I ride with a friend who does tell me that my horse is doing well while she watches us. That does lift my spirits–:)

  23. James Thomas Barlow on Wed, 14th Oct 2020 5:53 pm
  24. Thank you very much for the positive thoughts! I especially like the T. Roosevelt quote. Always helps to focus on the good times instead of dwelling on the bad.

  25. Caroline on Thu, 22nd Oct 2020 3:59 am
  26. You are a beautiful person Barb, and remind us of what really matters in life. Thank you for the profound gifts that you impart. I am taking them into all areas of my life. (I am 63; it has taken me this long to find a voice like yours.)
    Take care, Cart

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