Simple but not easy

What I’m going to share with you in this video are two ways to empower yourself and your horse, and then feel good around other people.

It’s a singular idea that’s easy to understand but takes deliberate thought to implement.

But when you do, your entire perspective will change. And your riding will improve, too.


Heh, it’s Barb.

I want to talk to you today about a super simple idea that is powerful, but somehow it’s not always easy for any of us to do this.

That Is the idea of seeing the best in ourselves, in our horses, and in other people.

The first way I want to apply this idea is for those of you who show.

You know how when you go to a show, you want to do well… of course! We want to present ourselves well and have it all together.

But in the back of our head sometimes, there are these voices that say, “I hope (problem) doesn’t happen. I’m not sure you have this together well enough,” etc.

We focus on where we think we will fall short.

But you can make a powerful change.

When you go show, you can have the intention to present the best of you, your riding, your horse, and the best of the two of you together.

When that is your intention, there can be a big shift in thinking. Everything completely changes from hoping things don’t go wrong, to “This is who we are, and we’re here to show you our best!”

Regarding your weak areas, practice your weaker areas later in practice at home. Of course, you need a strategy when you show for those weak spots… but the intention at the show can remain to show your best.

That’s one way to apply this ‘focus on the best’ idea.

Another way is when you’re around other people in any situation… at a show, in the barn… anywhere.

You know how when we’re around others, it’s so easy to think, “I wonder what they think about me? I wonder what they think about my riding or my horse? I wonder if I’ll measure up? I hope things don’t go wrong.”

We all tend to think this way. But, it causes us to withdraw on the inside. We can feel anxious.

But, you can begin to have the idea (when you’re around others) that you’re going to think about their best.

When you see them you’ll think, “I admire a certain quality in that person. I love that about that person.”

You make it your job to think some quick positive thoughts about them. It could be, “She’s a great Mom.” Or “I appreciate when she did that for us.” Then, just keep moving forward and go back to focusing on your own job with your horse.

Somehow this approach completely flips around that natural defensiveness around others, which is so easy to feel that way around others.

So, those are two ways that you can use the idea of having the intention to show the best of you and the best of your horse at a show. And, when you see other people, look for their best.

Let me know what you think!

Print This Post Print This Post    Email This Post Email This Post   


9 Comments on Simple but not easy

  1. Suzanne Ward on Sun, 5th Jul 2020 1:01 pm
  2. Thanks Barb. Your Insights seem to come at the appropriate times in my riding. Always refreshing, encouraging and insightful.

  3. Ann Hollins on Sun, 5th Jul 2020 3:11 pm
  4. My first cowhorse show is coming up next week, and you spoke to ME!
    Thank you for being you♡

  5. Lois Gould on Sun, 5th Jul 2020 8:07 pm
  6. Thank you once again Barbara. Always saying the right thing at the right time. I’ve recently had the very best practice run (barrel racing) on my mare that I’ve had for 4 years. My expectations have gone up and my anxiety of achieving them as well. I will have this message in mind when we go next weekend. Show yourself and your horse in the best light. And see all the others in a positive way as well. I’ll let you know how it goes

  7. Lori Krueger on Mon, 6th Jul 2020 9:17 am
  8. Thank you, Barbra, for your kind words of wisdom. I am not in the show world, but find as I age, I don’t have the confidence I used to have and it bothers me. I have a wonderful horse and we are really a team and I needed to hear your words about healthy thoughts. So, I am going to focus on positive, healthy thoughts and rides and hear your voice in my ear when I ride.

  9. Cindy Newell on Mon, 6th Jul 2020 2:11 pm
  10. I have noticed that when I change the way I think as I have learned in Core Confidence, I FEEL better. That, in turn, causes me to have a good time showing. Thank you, Barb, for your direction in my life!

  11. Claire and Feather! on Mon, 6th Jul 2020 2:15 pm
  12. You are SPOT on as usual! Love how you and Nic just ‘hang out’ being with each other!

    That conscious gratefulness and graciousness is such a game changer for our overall mental outlook. I try really hard to also verbalize to a person anything positive I can as appropriate.
    Their often “surprised” response of happiness or amazement that someone noticed anything positive-can keep my batteries charged for a long time and puts me in a more “this is all a learning curve” state of mind!

    Have a wonderful show season. Healthy peeps and horses!

  13. Harolyn Deason on Mon, 6th Jul 2020 11:04 pm
  14. As a man thinks in his heart, so is he! Excellent reminder. Thank you.

  15. Pam Dudek on Tue, 7th Jul 2020 5:10 pm
  16. Perfect timing Barb. Love your insight ❣️

  17. Carol MacGregor on Tue, 4th Aug 2020 2:46 pm
  18. Hi Barb, For some reason I stopped receiving your Sunday videos. I just found them again on your website and listened to this powerful one regarding your mental attitude of what you say to yourself regarding the performance of your horse and yourself in a competitive situation and what you “think” about other people when around them. This is very positive information!! Thank you. I did hear Warwick Schiller talking about this kind of mental attitude, and even practicing it when walking through an airport as he would see different people —would think something nice about them rather than something negative. He said it has really changed his life by doing this sort of mental activity!!!

Tell me what you're thinking...
and oh, if you want a pic to show with your comment, go get a gravatar!

This blog is kept spam free by WP-SpamFree.