Self-Awareness, Choices, and Confidence

My Mexico trip last weekend didn’t happen, but I did notice something about my reaction to not going that was a great reminder for me, and I have come to know is one of the most important starting points of confidence. That’s the ability to be self-aware and then make choices. That’s what this video is all about.


Hey, it’s Barb and Nic, and I want to tell you the follow-up story of what happened last weekend when, in the previous video, I didn’t know if I would go to Mexico to our nephew’s wedding.

I never went because Hurricane Norma was on its way to where we were going.

That’s the short story.

Here at home, I went through many emotions about our decision, although I knew it was the right thing to do.

I noticed I was very, very aware of my emotions. I had built myself up about going to Mexico and felt let down and missing our family. And then, when the hurricane hit, I started worrying about our family being down there.

As I went through these feelings, I had this surreal experience.

The ‘real me’ seemed to be observing the emotional part of me that was so sad.

Then, I knew I was acutely experiencing self-awareness. We see ourselves observing ourselves. From that more reflective place, we can decide how we want to continue thinking or feeling.

So, I ended up having a restful weekend. I decided I was going to enjoy Nic here at home and that I was going to be quiet.

I am sharing my experience of self-awareness and what it can be like. The inspirationalist Wayne Dyer used to call it the observer within ourselves. – an ability to step back and see ourselves as if we’re on the outside looking in. Then, from there, you make choices – your next steps.

Those steps often result in feeling empowered and confident because you’re not at the mercy of your thoughts or emotions (if you don’t want to think or feel differently) or at the mercy of things or people around you.

I hope that makes sense. Enjoy playing with ‘the observer’ watching yourself – and then making choices.

Have a great day, and leave a comment for me!

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10 Comments on Self-Awareness, Choices, and Confidence

  1. mark c mahnken on Sun, 29th Oct 2023 1:36 pm
  2. Disappointments happen. Mistakes happen. 6 weeks ago I was supposed to be an heir to an estate. This week I found that it had been taken from me by unsavory people. Then I walked out back this morning and looked at my small herd of awesome quarter horses and gazed into my tack room and realized I already had all that I need or want. They don’t have anything that I don’t already have, need or want in reality. I have a great family and I already have it all. It’s a great sunny day!

  3. Carol MacGregor on Sun, 29th Oct 2023 1:42 pm
  4. Hi Barb, Oh My!!! Your “chat” today is very insightful and deep!!! No wonder you had all of those emotions of wanting to be with your family enjoying your nephew’s wedding, feeling a little left out, and also concerned for their safety. It takes some time, and mental effort to process all of those real feelings and thoughts. I really appreciate your words today about being being very aware of our thoughts, feelings, and state of being. I’m still trying to process why I’ve been so sad lately regarding my situation with my 4 horses (never enough time to really bring all 4 along–and two have significant lameness issues right now) and the downward spiral of our nation which is extremely concerning. I’m doing what I can on both fronts, but again, I appreciate your depth of thought on becoming self aware-which can lead to nuggets of encouragement and direction in our decision making. Thank you 🙂

  5. Cindy Newell on Sun, 29th Oct 2023 5:02 pm
  6. I love this! Barb, you have helped me to be a happier person with messages like these. Since I have taken your classes and read your email messages, my life has taken a turn for the better!

  7. Claire on Sun, 29th Oct 2023 5:12 pm
  8. Oh Barb-I’m so sad for you that you couldn’t be with your family at a happy occasion like a wedding! I would have made the same choice however, and the worry is…well-worrying. Glad you had a nice weekend with Nic and Tom and the other fur critters. I imagine you don’t get many of those days in your schedule where you can just be at home with nowhere to go or nothing extra to do!

  9. Holly Postlewaite on Sun, 29th Oct 2023 5:51 pm
  10. I’m glad you mentioned that Claire, about having some time at home without any expectations. It sounds like that’s what Barb realized as well.

    That to me is pure joy, especially when it involves my horses. I can just be.

  11. Holly Postlewaite on Sun, 29th Oct 2023 5:59 pm
  12. I love how you just pop in and share when you feel led to!

    I’m not sure I can really relate, yet. As when I have a feeling, it seems to go straight to my head for processing or adding to by exacerbating it. It’s not until later that I remember oh, I wanted to be aware of that feeling so I could identify the physicality that was being affected; ie: tightness somewhere… Sometimes I can’t even describe what it is or where it is that I’m feeling a sensation.

    I am so thankful for you and others that remind me to pay what to pay attention to.

    My embodiment/awareness journey hasn’t been as easy as I thought it would be, a year ago when I started, I’m still an infancy!

  13. Adele Constable on Sun, 29th Oct 2023 7:33 pm
  14. That was very good at helping us see that we can all use a do-nothing with our besties weekend. I love that you do these talks while out riding Nic. I enjoy seeing new areas of your property. It is really beautiful!

  15. Candis Molde on Sun, 29th Oct 2023 7:43 pm
  16. As always you make me think and it makes good sence . I’m glad you made the decision to stay safe . Your ride on Nic must have been so restorative for both of you ! I always look forward to whatever you have to say . Thanks for always sharing your thoughts !

  17. Alice on Mon, 30th Oct 2023 5:43 am
  18. I’m so sorry that you couldn’t go to the wedding. 😔 Thankful, however, that you were blessed with this insight, and that you shared it with us!

  19. Mary on Mon, 30th Oct 2023 7:16 am
  20. I was very blown away by what you experienced and what you wrote. I too had a “situation” happen. As I sat looking out my dining room window I felt like I was looking at myself and knew I had a choice. I felt removed from the ordinary, and relieved of sadness. A peace came over me. I was aware I had the power to choose how I felt. I did not have to stay stuck. I was so Blessed.

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