Where we focus our attention is super important to how we get the result we want with our horse. That’s what this video is all about.
Hey, it’s Barb.
Today I want to speak with you about focus.
The first thing I’m going to tell you will not something new to you.
When we focus on something it often happens.
That’s such a simple idea and yet it’s so easy to forget… or sometimes we don’t even realize what it is that we’re focusing on! So we’re not really crazy about the results.
That reminds me of a story Anthony Robbins told forever ago. He talked about going to a party. He just walks into the party and doesn’t know anyone. He’s just observing the people.
On one side of the room are people having fun, laughing, and dancing. They’re having a great time!
On the other side of the room are other folks. They’re kind of grumpy. They’re complaining about the band and the food. They don’t think it’s a very good party.
So was the party a good party, or not?
It depends on where the observer decided to focus.
The same thing holds true in our riding.
One of the things we tend to do is focus on the end result of whatever we want. When we focus only on the result we tend to get abrupt with our cues. We end up with some kind of distorted version of what we really want.
Yes, you do want to feel the end result in your mind. But what makes it happen are the moments leading up to what you want.
I’m going to show you what I mean on Nic.
I’m just going to walk around and demonstrate at a walk.
Let’s say that I want to stop with my seat, and not so much with my hands.
(Barb demonstrates on Nic.)
I put my hand down here. I exhale. I drop my seat, There’s no problem if he doesn’t stop abruptly. I can use my hands to support my stop request after he’s had time to feel my seat.
But to get the stop, I focused on my breath and my seat. Over time, as he feels my seat, he will stop more on his own, because he gets to rest.
(Barb demonstrates again and Nic stops sooner).
My key message for you is to focus on the process and let results happen on their own.
Another little tip is when you watch your video, instead of watching only for the end result, watch how things happened as you came up to the end result. What worked well? And very importantly, exactly where did things start to not go so well? That’s where you focus on improving your riding.
I hope this helps you know more about where you can focus.
Let me know what you think in the comments.