Four Elements of Feel

It’s so easy to feel all kinds of things that, quite honestly, don’t feel so great! We’re distracted when we go to the barn, thinking about our day and all the things we need to do. Or we’re nervous – or we’re tired – or discouraged.

And when that happens, we have a hard time getting it together to ride at our personal best. That’s understandable

But if we take away all the fluff? What we really want more than anything is to feel like one with our horse – to feel connected.

Now the term ‘connection’ is used a lot. That’s because, according to research, it’s our greatest human need. I think that’s so interesting. We all want to feel cared for and interact with others in an authentic and very personal way.

In the saddle, that translates to ease, to balance, to rhythm, and so on.

Last year I began to research more about connection with a horse in the saddle. I knew it had to do with integrating ‘mental skills’ with classic horsemanship skills. I discovered a sequence and rhythm to the integration to develop new behaviors and become habitual. The best part is the sequence is effective for all disciplines.

This video is about what I discovered.

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First, it starts with you being present and staying present. One of the most effective ways to do that is to focus on your breathing throughout your ride.

The second piece is to feel the movement and rhythm of your horse’s gaits through your seat. You don’t have to do anything except relax, breathe, and feel your horse move you – again – consistently.

The third piece is to be one with your horse through the rhythm of energy waves – slowing and speeding up by thinking “energy up” on the inhale and “energy down” on the exhale. Together your breath, your seat, your mind, and your energy can work in sync with your horse.

The fourth piece is becoming more aware of the most effective way to cue your horse with tiny yet meaningful communications. There is an order to how you use your eyes, breath, seat, legs, feet, and hands. As you breathe, stay relaxed, connected to your seat, and feel your horse and the rhythms. When you do this, you’ll be more able to stay slow on the inside and use your cues clearly and effectively.

This week, on Thursday, July 8th, I’m going to release the first video in a three-part video series called “Well Connected.” During this video series, I will go into more depth about these ideas and show you how to weave them together.

Last week I asked you to set an intention as a first simple exercise to get you started on this connection path. This week, I’d like you to add a reminder to yourself – in both riding and living. In all you do, breathe easily, rhythmically, and consistently. You’ll find it brings you back to the present moment every time.

If you’d like to receive the free video series, click the link or the button below the video, and I’ll see you on Thursday, July 8th. The series will be up for about 10 days, so don’t miss out.

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12 Comments on Four Elements of Feel

  1. leslie bissey on Sun, 4th Jul 2021 4:33 pm
  2. riding would be good to try again thank you Nick seems like an amazing guy. leslie in B.C.

  3. Lucille Menzies on Sun, 4th Jul 2021 4:59 pm
  4. Thank you for all your encouraging posts. Since I’m pretty isolated, it helps to be “in touch” with like-minded people, even if it is through social media. Just donated to the veterans cutting event. Looking forward to future videos and seeing you and Shannon at the Club Cowgirl Clinic in November.

  5. Elaine Bohlin on Sun, 4th Jul 2021 6:19 pm
  6. Barb,
    We can never be reminded of the Elements of Feel too often. All of us are so lucky to have you to share your knowledge with us.I have grown a lot as a horsewoman from learning from you in your various courses (and had fun too).
    I sent a donation for the Brave Hearts event and I hope to be there to watch.

  7. Pam on Sun, 4th Jul 2021 7:55 pm
  8. Thanks again for your helpful information.
    You explain topics very clearly and I get so much out of your videos.

    Have a great week

  9. Barbra Schulte on Mon, 5th Jul 2021 6:22 am
  10. Lucille, looking forward to seeing you! Elaine, thank you for your donation and I hope to see you in Fort Worth! Leslie and Pam, thank you! Barb

  11. Kelly McGuire on Mon, 5th Jul 2021 7:21 am
  12. Barb, As a Therapeutic Riding teacher, I find this so interesting as we work on these things (with riders that can) and your perspective on it is very cool. But the other me, my “show self” has trouble maintaining the connection in the show pen! Ha! Thank you for this opportunity to have your perspective and to learn from you for no charge is extradordinary! Thank you.

  13. Maggie on Mon, 5th Jul 2021 8:02 am
  14. Is the transaction fee for Vet Donation really $30.18?? or should it be $3.18??

  15. Virginia Walker on Mon, 5th Jul 2021 8:34 am
  16. Love your short videos.

  17. Virginia Walker on Mon, 5th Jul 2021 8:35 am
  18. Can’t find the place to click to get the videos starting July 8. Thanks,.

  19. Kimberly Satterthwaite on Mon, 5th Jul 2021 8:39 am
  20. Thank you Barbra and Nic!

  21. Joanne Milton on Mon, 5th Jul 2021 10:33 am
  22. Thanks for everything! I’ve signed up for the video series, but don’t know how soon I’ll be able to access them…hopefully before they time out! I get my new knee tomorrow & am using your breathing exercises now in order to keep calm enough to get my laundry done & my bag packed!

  23. Ellen Elen on Mon, 5th Jul 2021 1:08 pm
  24. These videos are the best. Breathing can be so tricky in competition but with doing the exercises the habit seems to be starting. Thank you for everything ❤.

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