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A Lifeline for Trials

Last week I posted a meme on my Facebook page that had the quote, “Embrace the belief that every adversity contains a great gift.” That saying was superimposed over a white horse in a cloud kind of background. It all looked a bit ethereal.

I had many responses that agreed, like, “Yes!” or “Amen!”.
And understandably, one of the comments was, “It is hard to believe at this time.”

Then another woman said, “Sometime, Barb, will you discuss this in-depth. I would like to understand it better and be able to implement it effectively.”

I am more than happy to talk about this because it’s one of my lifelines of beliefs.

That’s what this mini-podcast is all about.

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AUDIO TRANSCRIPT:

Last week I posted a meme on my Facebook page that had the quote, “Embrace the belief that every adversity contains a great gift.” That saying was superimposed over a white horse in a cloud kind of background. It all looked a bit ethereal.

I had many responses that agreed, like, “Yes!” or “Amen!”.
And understandably, one of the comments was, “It is hard to believe at this time.”

Then another woman said, “Sometime, Barb, will you discuss this in-depth. I would like to understand it better and be able to implement it effectively.”

I am more than happy to talk about this because it’s one of my lifelines of beliefs. It keeps me in a positive frame of mind even though I might think at the time, where in the world could a gift possibly be in this tragedy? Or say, in our horse world – may be an owner invested in a wonderful horse, prepared him for an event – and then had to cancel at the last minute because of a deep bone bruise that who knows when – or how – it happened.

We all experience loss, huge disappointments, fear, anxiety, betrayal – and so on. No one escapes that. But a couple of key beliefs help me through adversities.

The first is that because tough times are a part of our lives, to me, there must be a purpose in them for our growth. Now I’m coming from a more spiritual perspective here, but I believe we can choose to embrace that belief – or not.

If we believe that there must be a good purpose in huge challenges, then I choose to see that purpose as a gift that I can actively search for. That mindset keeps me trusting in the direction of my life (instead of resisting it) and keeps me focused on things I can control.

It was hard for me to see any gift in the passing of our son initially – but I knew in time, I would find a gift – or maybe a lot of them. And I did. I wrote a book about it called “Healing Thoughts on Loss, Grief, and Horses.”

Two things stuck out for me.

I never realized how healing horses are to our hearts. Now, I was probably the only person on the planet who didn’t know that, but instead of my equine buddies being mainly my partners in the show ring, they had a new and more critical role. They were my quiet healers who stood by me in those dark times and let me be myself. I was so grateful.

Another thing I learned is great compassion for those who lose loved ones. I had no idea what people went through, so I tried to reach out more to those going through loss.

Both of those realizations enriched my life. Would I have chosen to learn them the way I did? Absolutely not. But given the situation, I am grateful for those gifts.

And back to riding our horses – who knows why someone’s horse gets a bruise. The owner has to stay home, even though they’ve planned a special event for months. Of course, I’m not sure why it happened. But I do know there’s a gift in there somewhere, if only we choose to see it that way. That’s the key. It’s a choice. And most often, a difficult one because it’s based on faith, that it will show up. We trust – and stay on the lookout.

So, to my friend who asked the question, I hope the beliefs I explained and the examples I shared are helpful.

Again, the idea there is a gift in adversity has been my lifeline for a long time. It comforts me and keeps me focused on the fact that something good is coming, but I may need to do some digging to find it.

Let me know what you think. Please leave a comment!