A Lifeline for Trials

Last week I posted a meme on my Facebook page that had the quote, “Embrace the belief that every adversity contains a great gift.” That saying was superimposed over a white horse in a cloud kind of background. It all looked a bit ethereal.

I had many responses that agreed, like, “Yes!” or “Amen!”.
And understandably, one of the comments was, “It is hard to believe at this time.”

Then another woman said, “Sometime, Barb, will you discuss this in-depth. I would like to understand it better and be able to implement it effectively.”

I am more than happy to talk about this because it’s one of my lifelines of beliefs.

That’s what this mini-podcast is all about.

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AUDIO TRANSCRIPT:

Last week I posted a meme on my Facebook page that had the quote, “Embrace the belief that every adversity contains a great gift.” That saying was superimposed over a white horse in a cloud kind of background. It all looked a bit ethereal.

I had many responses that agreed, like, “Yes!” or “Amen!”.
And understandably, one of the comments was, “It is hard to believe at this time.”

Then another woman said, “Sometime, Barb, will you discuss this in-depth. I would like to understand it better and be able to implement it effectively.”

I am more than happy to talk about this because it’s one of my lifelines of beliefs. It keeps me in a positive frame of mind even though I might think at the time, where in the world could a gift possibly be in this tragedy? Or say, in our horse world – may be an owner invested in a wonderful horse, prepared him for an event – and then had to cancel at the last minute because of a deep bone bruise that who knows when – or how – it happened.

We all experience loss, huge disappointments, fear, anxiety, betrayal – and so on. No one escapes that. But a couple of key beliefs help me through adversities.

The first is that because tough times are a part of our lives, to me, there must be a purpose in them for our growth. Now I’m coming from a more spiritual perspective here, but I believe we can choose to embrace that belief – or not.

If we believe that there must be a good purpose in huge challenges, then I choose to see that purpose as a gift that I can actively search for. That mindset keeps me trusting in the direction of my life (instead of resisting it) and keeps me focused on things I can control.

It was hard for me to see any gift in the passing of our son initially – but I knew in time, I would find a gift – or maybe a lot of them. And I did. I wrote a book about it called “Healing Thoughts on Loss, Grief, and Horses.”

Two things stuck out for me.

I never realized how healing horses are to our hearts. Now, I was probably the only person on the planet who didn’t know that, but instead of my equine buddies being mainly my partners in the show ring, they had a new and more critical role. They were my quiet healers who stood by me in those dark times and let me be myself. I was so grateful.

Another thing I learned is great compassion for those who lose loved ones. I had no idea what people went through, so I tried to reach out more to those going through loss.

Both of those realizations enriched my life. Would I have chosen to learn them the way I did? Absolutely not. But given the situation, I am grateful for those gifts.

And back to riding our horses – who knows why someone’s horse gets a bruise. The owner has to stay home, even though they’ve planned a special event for months. Of course, I’m not sure why it happened. But I do know there’s a gift in there somewhere, if only we choose to see it that way. That’s the key. It’s a choice. And most often, a difficult one because it’s based on faith, that it will show up. We trust – and stay on the lookout.

So, to my friend who asked the question, I hope the beliefs I explained and the examples I shared are helpful.

Again, the idea there is a gift in adversity has been my lifeline for a long time. It comforts me and keeps me focused on the fact that something good is coming, but I may need to do some digging to find it.

Let me know what you think. Please leave a comment!

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9 Comments on A Lifeline for Trials

  1. Sharon on Sun, 3rd Oct 2021 1:33 pm
  2. Hi barb im with you 100% when I lost everything home animals horses in bushfires 2 yrs ago I was lost no direction or passion I was able to save a few horses and with out there un bias opinions and compassion with out knowing has helped me endure . As a child growing up my horse was everything I could talk they listened without talking back or telling anyone they can keep your stress and feelings and give back something I thought I lost

  3. Carol MacGregor on Sun, 3rd Oct 2021 5:08 pm
  4. Thank you, Barb. Your words about “looking for” and “trusting” their is a reason or purpose for a loss is helpful. And I do think that is true too. Right now, in this Covid period, many people have lost so very much, and in so many ways. We all must “carry on” and be thankful that we have horses in our lives to help absorb some of the pain. Also, Sharon’s situation of heavy personal loss from a bush fire would be daunting. Glad that her helping other horses has helped her endure! Our son and daughter in law lost everything in a fire 3 years ago this Nov. I know there will be better days ahead as we continue on—

  5. Kathy Oxford, a friend from way back! on Mon, 4th Oct 2021 7:07 am
  6. With each trial we are faced with a decision. That decision will impact our lives going forward. It can build our faith, knowing that God is working in our lives and that we will gain wisdom and the tools to handle future challenges.
    Thanks for your wise words Barb! There is special healing for those of us blessed with a love of horses.

  7. Rob Pearce on Mon, 4th Oct 2021 9:56 am
  8. Nicely said. I always love hearing your perspectives.

  9. Janice on Mon, 4th Oct 2021 12:02 pm
  10. Thank you for taking your personal loss and using it to help remind those of us who have also experienced loss that we are not alone in this. Also, another reason to appreciate my horses.

  11. Katrina Thompson on Mon, 4th Oct 2021 1:10 pm
  12. Every time a road block pops up in front of me, in many areas of my life, I am startled, then frustrated and then Quickly reminded that I had prayed for Windom many, many years ago. Experience is the only way to achieve it. That is how I turn my disappointments and heartbreaks into gifts. It’s not easy, but necessary to grow. 💜

  13. Belinda on Tue, 5th Oct 2021 5:50 am
  14. Thank you, Barb! This was very helpful! I am understanding this more each time. Your willingness to share with us is also such a gift ! Hugs.

  15. Roberta Rollins on Fri, 8th Oct 2021 2:55 pm
  16. Barb,
    Your messages are always a comfort. Because they are encased with our faith and spiritual convictions, they have powerful healing qualities!

  17. Stacy Weatherly on Sun, 17th Oct 2021 5:19 pm
  18. Dearest Barb,
    As always your insight and faith is an inspiration to me and many others.
    Thank you for sharing your gift of helping those in need and reminding us that if we look deep enough we will find “the gift” in times of difficulty.
    My father had a massive heart attack when he was only 45 years old. We were all devastated and thankfully he survived.
    He had been planning a hunting trip with his good friends and they chartered a jet to take them to their hunting location.
    Sadly, the jet crashed and everyone was killed. Had he not suffered his heart attack, he too would have been on that plane.
    I try hard to look for the blessing in our disappointment and know sooner or later it is for our best intentions.
    Thank you again Barb!

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