A Fail-Safe Tool You’ll Love

We can all fall into the fear of what other people think of us trap – or – we can be judgmental of others, too. That doesn’t feel very good either! Today’s mini-podcast is about a fail-safe and fun technique you can use to ensure you stay in a positive place mentally and emotionally so you can do your job with your horse – undistracted.

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Hey, it’s Barb, and I have something quick and easy for you to help you navigate challenging relationships or when you’re in situations where you’re not that crazy about the people around you. 🙃

What I’m about to say is more than a belief; it’s become a knowing for me.

We want to stay in the highest vibe we can stay in. From that place, we can create, we can ride well, we can feel our horse, we can be calm, we can see our horse. The bottom line is we can be our best and help our horse bring out their best.

One of the most potent and challenging influences we all have from time to time is being around people we don’t jive with. Or it could be concern over what other people think of us, like at a show or a clinic or at the barn, or maybe somebody made a funky comment about your horse.

It could be anything that sets you off.

I have an idea I’m going to share with you that is easy and it works well. Here’s how it goes.

Before you get to the barn, set the intention that you’ll see something good in each person you meet – just quietly. If you want to, you can share it with them, but I’m talking less about sharing compliments and more about changing your perspective so you don’t bring yourself into the fray of feeling bad when you worry about being judged – or you feel judgmental yourself!

Here’s what to do. As you see people, think, “The good in me sees the good in you.”

And then think of something good about them.

Maybe they have a pretty smile. Perhaps they’re a good friend to someone you know. Maybe they did something extraordinary for someone else. Perhaps they’re a lovely rider.

It doesn’t matter what it is, but when you bring that positive trait to mind – your mind serves you instead of going on a runaway freight train, bringing up fear, and going down other nerve-wracking rabbit holes.

So that’s what I have for you today.

Set the intention that when you see someone, you will think, “The good in me sees the good in you.” This quick and easy practice helps us let go of a lot of stuff that distracts us from our job and gets us right where we want to be.

Take care. Bye bye. Leave a comment.

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15 Comments on A Fail-Safe Tool You’ll Love

  1. Jaime Brown on Sun, 5th Nov 2023 2:49 pm
  2. This is awesome. I choose to believe “everyone does the best they can in the moment with the tools they have on hand at the moment. Not that it’s good or right, just their best right now.” This has helped with my anger and judgement. This really brings that up a notch by helping to choose to set out thoughts on good things. 🥰

  3. Cindi Pimentel on Sun, 5th Nov 2023 2:55 pm
  4. I love that Barb! Thank u!!!!

  5. Candis Molde on Sun, 5th Nov 2023 3:54 pm
  6. This is such a wonderful way to walk through our beautiful world .
    I have seen people light up when I have at times noticed something that caught my eye
    and just had to compliment them on it . A few words and a smile can make a difference 😀

  7. Carolann on Sun, 5th Nov 2023 4:32 pm
  8. Beautiful. A game changer for sure.💙💙

  9. Adele Constable on Sun, 5th Nov 2023 6:30 pm
  10. Awesome! Something that I like to do which is along the same line is: tell people when they do something good, not just when they do something bad. In other words, if something affects you in a positive way, tell the person that.

  11. Brenda C on Mon, 6th Nov 2023 7:59 am
  12. Thank you Barb!
    This is such a loving and positive way to see people and walk in life!

  13. D'Lese Travis on Mon, 6th Nov 2023 8:45 am
  14. Good to think about at a horse show. We want to do our best and people to see our best. Also, with the holidays coming up, we all may have that one relative that we are anxious about being around, they seem to always have off-hand comments that are so hard to process positively. Thank you for this thought…”Let the good in me see the good in them.” I’ll try that. Thank you!

  15. Rhonda T Guilford on Mon, 6th Nov 2023 8:04 pm
  16. Thank you Barb, great reminder. I was just talking about this with someone today, I love that I’m hearing it again from you. I also have a little saying that I use to help me stay positive about myself and others when I find myself straying into the negative:
    ‘Let there be no gossip or criticism of one another’

  17. Wendy Pearce on Tue, 7th Nov 2023 5:51 am
  18. Thankyou Barb!! Great article, I got a lot from it and I can relate to ‘let the good in me, see the good in you’.
    I have found that whatever we project is magnified, good or bad. I love your honest transparency, it really has helped me to open up and know that ‘I am enough’ x

  19. Betty Godwin on Tue, 7th Nov 2023 12:20 pm
  20. Thanks Barb. I needed that and will remember to use it. The good in me can see good in you.

  21. Candis Molde on Tue, 7th Nov 2023 4:37 pm
  22. Love this !! So simple yet so helpful and easy to do . You always come up with positive, kind and wonderful ideas. Thanks Barb !

  23. Caroline Mackinnon on Wed, 8th Nov 2023 3:17 am
  24. I will look forward to reminding myself of your positive, wise words in many situations of every day life and it will make me happier and stronger. Thank you Barb.😊♥️

  25. Marianne on Wed, 8th Nov 2023 7:41 am
  26. Love this💕💕. What a great verse to start each day or situation!! Thank you 💖

  27. Jamie on Wed, 8th Nov 2023 8:25 am
  28. Love this. Often have social anxiety. This simple practice will help – 🙏 thanks

  29. Roberta Rollins on Sun, 12th Nov 2023 5:56 pm
  30. Thanks, Barb, for this sage advice to look at and love each person we meet as a child of God, made in his image💕

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