How would you define “true confidence?” Would you find it in an award or recognition? Would you say it is a feeling of security when you get on your horse? Would you find true confidence if you were calm in most situations?
It’s pretty hard to nail down one definition of “true” confidence because it could be one or all of those things. And it’s so personal.
At this juncture of my life and career, I have an additional take on confidence. It is the most important definition of all … to me.
Just like you, I have my own trail of ups and downs, on and off of a horse. Sometimes they are technical challenges. Sometimes they are mental challenges. Sometimes they are more personal, like what decision to make.
I think “true confidence” comes from knowing that no matter what is going on around me (or within me) that I’m okay … that nothing can alter my faith that the journey of my life is perfect for me. It’s knowing that all of the set backs, all of the changes and all of the fears I experience are meant just for me and I will do my best to respond in an empowering manner.
My approach is to be acutely aware of my challenges or fears and then figure out if they just need to be let go, or if I need to take a certain action.
True confidence is also knowing that whatever choices I make, that I know I am doing the best I can. It’s knowing that every one of my decisions is never right or wrong. It’s just a choice of a direction.
It’s taken me a while to arrive at this peace and the faith in my personal brand of journey … and to get back to that peace and faith promptly when I feel off course … but I’m getting better. I’ll be practicing forever.
That’s the nature of our horse experiences. We never totally arrive. We are all just on a very personal journey. The true confidence to travel that journey with ease and energy comes from within … not from the outside.
So, my friend … whatever blessings you have … celebrate them. Be grateful. Whatever challenges you have, embrace them. Your journey is unique and meant just for you. Seek the gifts and the lessons. Return to true confidence.
Our horses are are great comforters, mentors and partners in our great personal adventure.