“How to Find the Courage”

One of the themes in this workshop that may ring true for you is that your imperfections do not define or weaken you. In fact feeling at peace with them and embracing them as your personal next steps forward strengthen you within. It’s courageous and comforting all at the same time to know you are enough as you constantly grow in whatever direction you choose.

It’s a common thing to love what we do, but settle for less than what we really want to achieve.

By that I mean we allow our past results to dictate how we see our future potential.

If you see yourself in terms of past mistakes and disappointments, most of the time you will continue to do the same.

Often this limited view of yourself makes you feel sad, and less than enthusiastic. You might settle into a quiet resignation that things will never change.

You settle for less.

I do understand it can be difficult to see yourself achieving the success you deserve and desire. Many times it’s because your view is blocked by reasons why … try as you might … you believe you just can’t do things differently.

However … the past NEVER equals the future.

There is a fun way to think of future success that can stir a new belief about what can be for you.

This may sound a tiny bit odd, but here goes.

Tell a story about yourself in the third person … as if you’re speaking of someone else.

It might go something like, “Once upon a time, there was a fun loving young girl (or guy) named, ___________ who LOVED horses. In her youth she got to do ________ and ________. And then later on x, and x, and x, and x.”

(Of course this person is you.)

Bring your story up to date.

Now, you’re ready to tell yourself “what happens.” This is where you tell the future story with details that excite you.

” (name) decided one day to break out of feeling stuck. She saw herself doing what she really loved.

She decided to never let adversity dampen her spirit. She used obstacles as opportunities to grow ever wiser and stronger.

She took risks. She designed a riding life she loved, which was ___________. She went on to ________________.

She got feedback and instruction from __________. She practiced new mental tools to stay calm and focused. She always saw herself as an awesome rider.

She was so excited not to listen to those voices in her head that told her she couldn’t do what she loved in the way she loved to do it.

She told herself that she was enough … and that it was all about HER journey … and not how things were judged on the outside.

She became creative. She asked for help. She never gave up. She loved her riding life. She went on to __________.”

As you dare to tell a story to yourself … about yourself … in the third person … that makes you smile, all of a sudden those things seem possible.

Most importantly, you feel enthusiastic again.

Live and relive and relive that story in your mind as if you’ve already achieved it.

This simple story telling tool can light a spark of new belief in unlimited possibilities within you.

Perhaps your story will come true … perhaps it won’t. But to be sure, whatever version comes true, you will have the joy of a moment-to-moment journey. And who you are becoming … and the magnificence of the journey is what it’s all about.

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2 Comments on “How to Find the Courage”

  1. Camille Abbott on Tue, 3rd Oct 2017 10:25 am
  2. This definitely hit a nerve with me. This weekend at the show I got a 4th place medal for a 68 in the non-pro. In an effort to be positive, I made the remark that “at least, I got this.” The person I was talking to to replied, “Yeah, did you really want that?” The answer, of course, was no. Basically, I had settled. I settled for what I believed was better than not getting anything when what I really wanted was a prettier run and a better score because I considered all the other riders better than me and that I was lucky to even get that. Future potential is better than settling.

  3. Eva Barnes on Tue, 3rd Oct 2017 5:41 pm
  4. After an eleven year period of being out of barrel racing, I realized how much I missed it. In January one of my biggest dreams became a reality when I bought a three year old Paint filly out of Gail Hillman’s stallion DTB Can’t Touch This out of How D Lasan Doll. I’ve wanted one of Gail’s colts longer than I can remember. I have goals already in mind for Trixie and me. In the meantime, this filly gave me back my confidence. She taught me to trust again. She gave me the courage to get on board and ride and do it with a huge smile. When I ride her, I have wings and the heart of a warrior. We have a way to go before we’re competing but with her heart and try, I feel we can accomplish the goals ahead. For the first time in a long time I feel I have a purpose and my passion for the sport I so loved has been reignited.

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